https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/public/ recent bookmarks from matthewmcvickar 2021-04-14T03:48:31+00:00 https://tinyletter.com/aworkinglibrary/letters/remote-to-who-a-working-letter matthewmcvickarBecause if remote work gives us anything at all, it gives us the chance to root ourselves in a place that isn’t the workplace. It gives us the chance to really live in whatever place we have chosen to live—to live as neighbors and caretakers and organizers, to stop hoarding all of our creative and intellectual capacity for our employers and instead turn some of it towards building real political power in our communities.]]> business life work labor https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:768adf795f45/ 2019-07-26T04:29:25+00:00 https://www.theparisreview.org/blog/2019/07/16/the-crane-wife/ matthewmcvickarTen days after calling off her engagement, CJ Hauser travels to the Gulf Coast to live among scientists and whooping cranes. --- I think I was afraid that if I called off my wedding I was going to ruin myself. That doing it would disfigure the story of my life in some irredeemable way. I had experienced worse things than this, but none threatened my American understanding of a life as much as a called-off wedding did. What I understood on the other side of my decision, on the gulf, was that there was no such thing as ruining yourself. There are ways to be wounded and ways to survive those wounds, but no one can survive denying their own needs.]]> life relationships writing nature https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:cf35d22769aa/ 2019-07-16T17:37:45+00:00 https://theoutline.com/post/4985/ask-a-fuck-up-how-do-i-live-when-everything-sucks matthewmcvickarMental illness is a very much a matter of physiology and not one of will. Anyone who tells you to just try yoga or change your diet or think happier thoughts should have their teeth turn to ashes in their mouth. And I understand the importance of destigmatizing mental illness by rendering it within a medical framework. For too long we have viewed it as a moral indictment, to disastrous effect. However, I also think this tends to throw a certain responsibility back onto those of us who struggle with it. Yes, my own personal brain chemistry is something I must reckon with, but doing so while navigating a cruel health care system, with the goal of remaining healthy enough to face a laughably uncertain financial future, all in service to surviving a world that is everywhere immiserating, hardly seems a good way to answer “how do I live.” The best answer I’ve managed to come up with is that you live with intention of making that question easier for other people to answer. For me, the worst aspect of chronic depression (besides the boredom of it all) is the urge to be alone. If you’ve read my previous columns, you’ll notice that I almost always find a way to bring up our beholdenness to others. This is because I’m a lazy writer, but also because the fact of mutual obligation is what gives me the motivation to write at all. It’s also what animates any politics worth having.]]> life advice mentalhealth depression https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:33f1826701b5/ 2019-06-23T23:13:01+00:00 https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/shannonkeating/lesbian-cruise matthewmcvickarI didn’t expect that spending a week with a couple thousand lesbians on a cruise ship would push me to radically reconsider the future I’d planned for myself.]]> lgbt life identity https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:0e9797fdfc46/ 2019-03-22T16:45:27+00:00 https://www.harihareswara.net/sumana/2019/03/21/0 matthewmcvickarA ton of fiddly expensive-if-you-make-a-mistake labor has emerged or shifted onto the middle class's shoulders, without commensurate logistical, psychological, or financial support for that shift.]]> life millennials capitalism https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:01add1584310/ 2013-07-21T22:27:37+00:00 http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2013/06/how-did-work-life-balance-in-the-us-get-so-awful/276336/ matthewmcvickarThe surprising fact is that American leisure time has actually been increasing for most families for decades, and American men work less today, and have more down time, than ever recorded. Even if you consider that to be bad news (and many do), less work should improve just about any definition of work-life balance. Still, the most important reason why we rank barely above Mexico is the increase in single mothers who, in the U.S., face an extraordinary burden relative to their overseas counterparts.]]> culture life work https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:53fa680f2f21/ 2013-03-20T19:36:05+00:00 http://www.theonion.com/articles/find-the-thing-youre-most-passionate-about-then-do,31742/?ref=auto matthewmcvickarIt could be anything—music, writing, drawing, acting, teaching—it really doesn’t matter. All that matters is that once you know what you want to do, you dive in a full 10 percent and spend the other 90 torturing yourself because you know damn well that it’s far too late to make a drastic career change, and that you’re stuck on this mind-numbing path for the rest of your life.]]> humor satire life society https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:531a28304918/ 2013-01-30T22:41:22+00:00 http://www.onbeing.org/program/transcript/4932 matthewmcvickarYou know, and so, I've come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.]]> life personality psychology https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:beb1d7f12be7/ 2013-01-17T00:22:14+00:00 http://actuallygrimes.tumblr.com/post/38990279224/claire-are-you-ever-scared-of-anything-i-feel-too matthewmcvickarIf doing what you want is an option for you, you should do it, because your one of the few lucky people who can. And even if you fail, you will be in a better position than if you’d never tried. The competition probably isn’t that crazy. Most people are too scared to even try. Bad things can happen, but every horrible thing that has ever happened to me has added integrity to my art and improved my understanding of the human race.]]> life advice music writing personality https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:ad20ec093263/ 2012-06-22T20:32:18+00:00 http://a.wholelottanothing.org/2012/03/my-webstock-talk.html matthewmcvickar entrepreneurship advice life startup business https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:464b4bf87e2b/ 2012-05-27T01:31:24+00:00 http://www.hulu.com/watch/360251/tell-them-anything-you-want-a-portrait-of-maurice-sendak matthewmcvickar art literature children life death writing documentary interview https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:13810e32aa4e/ 2012-03-05T03:54:40+00:00 http://transom.org/?p=24153 matthewmcvickar entrepreneurship inspiration life work creativity https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:d306d9b9e7cb/ 2011-11-11T01:23:12+00:00 http://www.43folders.com/2009/04/28/priorities matthewmcvickar life productivity https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:7668f8f56723/ 2011-06-03T07:52:59+00:00 http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html matthewmcvickar death inspiration life psychology https://pinboard.in/ https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:70a75841e15a/ 2009-09-04T20:20:47+00:00 http://www.miltonglaser.com/pages/milton/essays/es3.html matthewmcvickar design art business inspiration creativity philosophy productivity life advice work wisdom miltonglaser https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:92678142d258/ 2009-03-16T11:21:23+00:00 http://www.kongregate.com/games/TerryCavanagh/dont-look-back matthewmcvickar art games flash minimalism puzzles life love death https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:d760ceed7ed7/ 2009-03-12T22:10:24+00:00 http://www.brucemaudesign.com/incomplete_manifesto.html matthewmcvickar affirmations inspiration art creativity philosophy life manifesto https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:4d8e100c979f/ 2009-02-15T05:36:40+00:00 http://www.seedmagazine.com/news/2009/02/the_evolution_of_life_in_60_se.php matthewmcvickardesign art video history science evolution graphics life visualization https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:352578dfc883/ 2009-01-24T00:45:59+00:00 http://fiftypeopleonequestion.com/ matthewmcvickar art people web film video inspiration culture social ideas love documentary life storytelling viral https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:e8d4a0c7f5ec/ 2008-12-10T20:43:09+00:00 http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200812/jim-carrey matthewmcvickar jimcarrey existentialism human comedy humor writing film culture movies philosophy self criticism celebrity identity life acting actors https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:26b578f8d0bc/ 2008-11-23T00:05:44+00:00 http://interconnected.org/home/2008/11/17/in_contrast matthewmcvickar music art psychology writing life https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:0e54b214e2d3/ 2008-09-06T23:31:05+00:00 http://sivers.org/tim-ferriss matthewmcvickar lifehacks work business inspiration interview marketing productivity time life https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/b:6059ef5a6d29/