https://pinboard.in/u:matthewmcvickar/public/ recent bookmarks from matthewmcvickar 2019-07-16T17:28:52+00:00 https://theoutline.com/post/6381/ask-a-fuck-up-how-do-i-make-friends?zd=1&zi=lkewzfjp matthewmcvickarHere is something that I rarely, if ever, disclose: I am often overwhelmed by a terrible, howling loneliness. Depression tends to flatten my experience of the world, and grief has lately made it sharp, but loneliness is the thing that really forecloses; it is the sense that whatever I am doing or feeling it will not be shared or understood, that I will be unknown. It’s a hard thing to admit, and I’m very glad you wrote me about it. It’s strange the things we admit and those we don’t. Despite a general disposition toward vulnerability — on social media, at least, many of us are willing to freely say we’re depressed or anxious or want to die — we seem loathe to admit we are lonely. It feels like a personal failing — to admit we have trouble making friends, to bend toward care and be met with indifference. Besides, the message the world is constantly hammering out is that this is the era of connection! It’s so easy to stay in touch! If you are not constantly awash in the joy of companionship, well — that sounds like a you problem, right? [...] I think your problem is both simpler and more deeply entrenched. 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