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recent bookmarks from jerrykingOpinion | The World According to Mad Magazine2019-07-29T00:32:10+00:00
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/07/12/opinion/mad-magazine-last-issue.html?searchResultPosition=1
jerryking>true believers<<. Mad’s ethos was essentially conservative: its all-fronts, iconoclastic assault on bigotry and hypocrisy was a tacit appeal to good old-fashioned decency and integrity. Mad made good enemies: The Ku Klux Klan once demanded an apology and threatened to sue over what it considered a libel against its organization.......Mad’s influence is ubiquitous now. The glut of satire and >>subversive<< comedy we all now consume daily is created by kids who grew up on Mad or on humor inspired by it: “Saturday Night Live,” “The Simpsons,” “The Daily Show,” “The Colbert Report” and The Onion are all in one way or another the spawn of Mad. . But in the end, the magazine largely obviated itself as a cultural force by becoming the dominant mode of humor in America. ]]>'70s anti-Establishment cartoons comic-books farewells golden_age humour magazines op-ed parodies satire true_believers coming-of-age funnies irreverence popular_culture subversion young_peoplehttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:53cb89ee6625/How to wing it when you need to make a speech2019-06-24T13:24:00+00:00
https://www.ft.com/content/f5cca1f8-9405-11e9-b7ea-60e35ef678d2
jerrykingBoris_Johnson Communicating_&_Connecting howto humour preparation public_speaking speeches TED think_threes Toastmasters practice rehearsalshttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:701f3679f25a/How to Talk to People, According to Terry Gross2018-11-17T20:56:21+00:00
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/17/style/self-care/terry-gross-conversation-advice.html?action=click&module=Editors%20Picks&pgtype=Homepage
jerryking>organize your thoughts<< beforehand by thinking about the things you expect you’ll be asked and then reflecting on how you might answer,” think through where your boundaries are, so that you’re not paralyzed agonizing over whether you’re willing to confide something or not.”
In a job interview, >>organizing your thoughts<< by thinking about the things you expect you’ll be asked and reflecting on how you might answer can help you navigate if things start to go badly.
(5) Take control by pivoting to something you want to talk about.
(6) Ms. Gross doesn’t want you to dodge questions. But if you’re going to, here’s how: Say, “I don’t want to answer that,” or, if that’s too blunt, hedge with a statement like, “I’m having a difficult time thinking of a specific answer to that.” Going the martyr route with something like, “I’m afraid by answering that I’m going to hurt somebody’s feelings and I don’t want to do that,” is another option.
(7) Terry pays attention to body language. Be like Terry.
(8) When to push back, and when not to.]]>body_language Communicating_&_Connecting conversations curiosity howto humour preparation tips nonverbal posture ice-breakers concision interviews interview_preparation job_search Managing_Your_Career pay_attention brevity mental_organization NPR radio on-air_talent listening organize_your_thinking thinking_on_your_feethttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:cb5e7c63368c/Tom Peters summarizes 17 books in six words -2018-05-31T20:26:10+00:00
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/business/careers/management/article-tom-peters-summarizes-17-books-in-six-words/
jerryking>allies<< to your cause takes time.
* Reading and studying to improve takes time.[i.e. = "dedication"/"practice"]
* Waiting takes time – and yes, you should wait, since delay and pondering [i.e. = "reflections"] are essential elements of being human.
* Aggressive >>listening<< takes time.
* >>Practice<< and prep for anything takes time. [i.e. = "dedication"/"practice"]
* Management-by-walking-around takes time.
* The slack you need in your schedule that comes from thinking about >>what not to do<< so you’re not overscheduled takes time.
* Thoughtful small gestures take time.
* The last one per cent of any task or project – the often critical part, the polishing part – takes time.[i.e. = "ninety-ninety rule"]
* Game-changing design takes time. Laurene Powell Jobs noted that her husband, Steve Jobs, and his chief designer, Jony Ive, “would discuss corners for hours.”
* >>Excellence<< takes time.
* “It is a hyper-fast-paced world. And the speed therein is madly increasing. Excellence, however, takes time; and some, or most, measures cannot be rushed,” he says.
* So remember hard is soft. Soft is hard. And don’t automatically get caught in the speed trap.
[jk....from Tony Schwartz...... Judgment is grounded in discernment, subtlety and nuance.... Good judgment grows out of reflection, and reflection requires the sort of quiet time that gets crowded out by the next demand].
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THE VALUE OF >>PAIRED OPPOSITES<<
it’s not enough to merely explain what you believe. You also need to explain what you don’t believe. It is not enough to explain what you stand for. You need to explain what you stand against. That is critical with colleagues in the workplace; it helps to clarify. But it also works in Mr. Williams’ field, advertising. “Don’t just tell us what you are. Tell us what you are not,” he says.
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check email at 7 a.m., 11 a.m., 4 p.m., and 8 p.m., with some additional time to purge emails each day.
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Seth Godin: Add energy to every conversation, ask why, find obsolete items on your task list and eliminate them, treat customers better than they expected, offer to help to co-workers before they ask, leave things more organized than you found them, cut costs, and find other great employees to join the team.
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two words that will build trust with customers, according to consultant Jeff Mowatt: “As promised.” Add them in to conversations after you deliver something >>on time<< or >>in detail<<, to emphasize it’s “as promised.”]]>Communicating_&_Connecting e-mail Harvey_Schachter humour Seth_Godin soft_skills speed Tom_Peters trustworthiness dual-consciousness pairs clarity thinking_deliberatively on-time opposing_actions co-workers Jonathan_Ive speed_traps Laurene_Powell_Jobs yin_yang overschedule alliances dedication excellence listening reflections stop_doing detail-oriented ninety-ninety_rule what_not_to_do paired_oppositeshttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:db295055ea2b/Canada's Storyteller: A Tribute to Stuart McLean2017-02-21T16:43:52+00:00
http://www.cbc.ca/radio/blog/?pplid=1.3984881
jerrykingtributes storytelling CBC humour Canadiana iconic cultural_touchpointshttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:047f478ba27d/Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person2016-05-29T19:58:52+00:00
http://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html?_r=0
jerryking>grown-ups<< find ourselves rejecting certain candidates for marriage not because they are wrong but because they are too right — too balanced, mature, understanding and reliable — given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign. We marry the wrong people because we don’t associate being loved with feeling happy....We make mistakes, too, because we are so lonely. No one can be in an optimal frame of mind to choose a partner when remaining single feels unbearable.....Finally, we marry to make a nice feeling permanent. We imagine that marriage will help us to bottle the joy we felt when the thought of proposing first came to us....We marry to make joyful sensations permanent but fail to see that there is no solid connection between these feelings and the institution of marriage....The good news is that it doesn’t matter if we find we have married the wrong person. We mustn’t abandon him or her, only the founding "romantic love" idea upon which the Western understanding of marriage has been based the last 250 years: that a perfect being exists who can meet all our needs and satisfy our every yearning....swap the Romantic Love view for a tragic (and at points comedic) awareness that every human will frustrate, anger, annoy, madden and disappoint us — and we will (without any malice) do the same to them. There can be no end to our sense of emptiness and incompleteness. But none of this is unusual or grounds for divorce. Choosing whom to commit ourselves to is merely a case of identifying which particular variety of suffering we're willing to sign up for.
This philosophy of pessimism--thinking tragically--offers a solution to a lot of distress and agitation around marriage. It might sound odd, but pessimism relieves the excessive imaginative pressure that our romantic culture places upon marriage. The failure of one particular partner to save us from our grief and melancholy is not an argument against that person and no sign that a union deserves to fail or be upgraded.
The person who is best suited to us is not the person who shares our every taste (he or she doesn’t exist),[i.e. = we're acting amazingly >>self-referentially<<, engaging in "homophily"/"mirror-imaging"] but the person who can **negotiate differences in taste** [i.e. = "different perspectives"] intelligently — the person who is good at disagreement. Rather than some notional idea of perfect complementarity, it is the capacity to tolerate differences with generosity that is the true marker of the “not overly wrong” person.
Romantic Love has been >>unhelpful<< to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.” We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners.
]]>marriage relationships intimacy Communicating_&_Connecting generosity grace serving_others romantic_love thinking_tragically conflict_resolution pessimism disappointment imperfections disagreements forgiveness humour perspectives expectations tolerance self-awareness mate-finding homophily mirror-imaging different_perspectives self-referential unhelpfulness negotiate-tolerate_differences good_enough grownupshttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:7351a2e34611/A guide to shaking off the doom and gloom2011-11-11T12:19:34+00:00
http://go.galegroup.com.ezproxy.torontopubliclibrary.ca/ps/i.do?id=GALE%7CA271955663&v=2.1&u=tplmain_z&it=r&p=STND&sw=w
jerryking>stoics<<:
*Admit >>mistakes<< and move on:[i.e. = "public acknowledgement"]
*Keep busy:
*Get fit:
*Focus on small wins:
*Ignore events over which you have no control: [i.e. = "beyond one's control"/"letting go"]
*Concentrate on your micro economy
*Laugh: psychologists know that humour is healthy.
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History gives us a sense of proportion, he says: “It’s an antidote to a lot of unfortunately human trends like self-importance and self-pity.”.....see history “as an aid to navigation in such troubled, uncertain times,”.....[David McCullough] ]]>Luke_Johnson economic_downturn bouncing_back resilience reading history affirmations humour fitness exercise personal_economy Stoics sense_of_proportion small_wins quick_wins antidotes self-importance self-pity navigation historical_lessons invest_in_the_young mistakes beyond_one's_control letting_go public_acknowledgmenthttps://pinboard.in/https://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:5e16ad08c86d/Virgin: the world's best passenger complaint letter? - Telegraph2011-03-07T13:03:40+00:00
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/travelnews/4344890/Virgin-the-worlds-best-passenger-complaint-letter.html
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http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/technology/globe-on-technology/blackberry-vs-iphone-the-ultimate-showdown/article1656305/
jerrykingfunnies humour BlackBerry iPhonehttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:af252ea482a0/Urban Dictionary: macktivist2010-06-28T01:39:53+00:00
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=macktivist
jerrykingdefinitions humour words languageshttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:b3cd9bce4c97/How to Be Jason Bourne: Multiple Passports, Swiss Banking, and Crossing Borders2010-06-22T01:40:34+00:00
http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2009/03/03/how-to-be-jason-bourne-multiple-passports-swiss-banking-and-crossing-borders/
jerrykinghumour funnieshttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:a5f0d993d92f/How to Be Interesting | Copyblogger2010-06-22T01:31:30+00:00
http://www.copyblogger.com/how-to-be-interesting/
jerryking>pay attention<<.
6. Make people laugh
Bloggers are far too serious. We’re so busy teaching that we sometimes forget to entertain. As a result, large portions of our readerships fall asleep. And what’s the best way to wake people up? Humor.
7. Offer them an aspirin
Some of the best blog posts ever written are simple as an aspirin. Your reader has a headache, you have a cure, so you offer them that cure in the form of a blog post.
8. Show a (half) naked woman
Ever noticed that a disproportionate number of advertisements feature a scantily clad woman? That’s because it works.
9. Tell them who they are
“Who am I?” is not just a question; it’s a universal quest that most of us follow for our entire lives, continually defining and redefining ourselves, always insecure about whether who we are being is really us. As a blogger, you can (and should) harness that insecurity. Turn your blog into something that defines your readers.
10. Predict the future
Every once in awhile, use your expertise to make a bizarre claim about the future. If you have any authority at all, people will take notice.
11. Unleash your inner dork
Many blog posts are like miniature textbooks; they’re instructive, well-organized, and put you to sleep with their lack of enthusiasm. If you want to become famous on the web, stop trying to sound like an all-knowing teacher and unleash the “inner dork” inside of you — the part of you that’s so enamored with your topic that everyone else thinks it’s funny … but they pay attention anyway.
12. Be courageous
The fact is, pretty much everyone has felt the foot of adversity on their neck, but very few of us respond to it with courage and grace. Be one of those people, and you’ll find the world will be watching.
13. Be startlingly honest
Every once in awhile, tell the truth. Be so honest that you’re scared to click the “Post” button. Be so honest that no one knows what to say in the comments section. Be so honest that your lawyer tells you to stop.
14. Be irreverent
Want to stir people up? Make fun of their god, their politics, their family — anything they hold dear.
15. Tell a good story
This one has been drilled into us so many times that I almost didn’t include it … except for one thing: people still don’t get it.
16. Break an important piece of news
Every time Google does something new, thousands of bloggers write about it.
17. >>Disprove<< the proven
For a long time, everyone thought you had to be the best to be successful. Then >>Chris Anderson<< came along and turned the world upside down with >>The Long Tail<<. He disproved what a lot of people held to be true, and it made him (even more) famous.
18. Pick the perfect picture
Want to make a good post better? Pick a picture that expresses exactly what you mean, and put it at the top of your post. Yes, it takes time, but the extra traffic is more than worth it.
19. Master the metaphor
>>Metaphors<< are the paths we create to lead our readers to our ideas. Create one strong enough, and it will become a highway of attention, leading readers to your blog more quickly than any other technique here
20. Create a work of art
Many bloggers crank out posts the way slaughterhouses crank out chickens. They’re ugly things, fit for nothing but consumption. If you want to surprise people, stop and put some actual effort into your blog posts, creating a work of art.
21. Put your readers first
Yes, you’re the blogger. Yes, you’re the one with talent. Yes, you’re the one working your tail off. But it doesn’t matter. The one and only thing of consequence is your reader. ]]>howto interestingness quotes blogging Chris_Anderson disprove honesty imagery irreverence metaphors pay_attention standing_out_from_the_crowd storytelling The_Long_Tail courage humour painkillers unexpectedhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:9a8c17fa0f4d/why most artist’s blogs fail2010-06-14T18:13:25+00:00
http://gapingvoid.com/2010/06/14/wmabf/
jerrykingfailure blogging art blog humour marketing business inspiration social_media authenticityhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:095e47c10e23/4-Block World2010-05-30T16:06:24+00:00
http://www.fourblockworld.com/
jerrykinghumour quirky offbeathttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:b993818aad92/Corner Office - Tachi Yamada and the Importance of Undivided Attention - Question - NYTimes.com2010-03-06T21:00:11+00:00
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/28/business/28corner.html?ref=business&pagewanted=all
jerrykingbillgates philanthropy CEOs Managing_Your_Career career feedback hiring leadership focus slight_edge rate-limiting_steps affirmations humour commitments priorities bottlenecks abstractions moments attention North_Star monotasking mindfulness living_in_the_moment linchpins Gates_Foundation micromanagement open_mindhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:47121de34bd4/Tiger Woods Announces Return To Sex | The Onion - America's Finest News Source2010-02-27T14:26:01+00:00
http://www.theonion.com/content/news/tiger_woods_announces_return_to
jerrykingTiger_Woods humour theonion sportshttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:6efdf581e8e7/By George - And the Pursuit of Happiness Blog2010-01-01T16:17:23+00:00
http://kalman.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/12/31/by-george/
jerrykinghappiness humour art self-actualizationhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:ca4156cfacee/How to Ruin American Enterprise2009-10-26T03:19:27+00:00
http://www.forbes.com/forbes/2002/1223/225_print.html
jerrykinghowto Ben_Stein U.S. satire humour celebrities threats popular_culture collapse-anxietyhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:54c317a3e737/Thought du jour2009-10-22T18:33:10+00:00
http://www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2004/jan/11/society1
jerrykingrelationships rules_of_the_game gender_relations romantic_love humour Communicating_&_Connecting companionship positive_intent well-intentionedhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:4d112e1f09d7/The Food Issue - Michael Pollan's Favorite Food Rules - Interactive Feature - NYTimes.com2009-10-14T13:08:44+00:00
http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2009/10/11/magazine/20091011-foodrules.html?ref=magazine
jerrykingMichael_Pollan food guidelines humourhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:869fc39ae834/Bacon Today?|?Daily News on the World of Sweet, Sweet Bacon.2009-07-14T13:42:12+00:00
http://bacontoday.com/
jerrykingfood meat blogs pork blog humourhttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:2704018edb2d/The Ultimate Rejection Letter2009-06-23T19:38:23+00:00
http://www.chaosmatrix.org/library/humor/reject.html
jerrykinghumour rejectionshttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:9678e2106131/WSJ.com - The Marketing Maze2009-02-02T17:41:47+00:00
http://online.wsj.com/article/SB115221616550299854-email.html
jerrykingmarketing Web_2.0 humour guerrilla_marketing web_video ufschttps://pinboard.in/u:jerryking/b:69d556e5f96b/